This blog was written especially for The Porch Light by Sara Ard, Greater Orlando Human Trafficking Task Force College and University Chair.
My Sweet Sister,
Jeremiah 1:5 says, “I chose YOU before I formed YOU in the womb; I set YOU apart before YOU were born. I appointed YOU a prophet to the nations.”
I’ve thought long and hard about what I could write to express how amazing you are and I ended up reflecting on my own coming-of-age experience.
I remember being in your shoes. You don’t want anyone to tell you what to do, but you crave acceptance, long for love, desire to feel beautiful and more than anything, want to be wanted. To the world it may appear you have “it all figured out” but deep down you are crying for so much more. It’s hard to admit, but you don’t have a blueprint for fulfilling your desires, so you fall for almost anything.
I remember the first time a guy showed interest in me. I was 14 years old and he would call, text and go out of his way to contact me. Truth be told, I LOVED it. I felt wanted, beautiful and accepted. Three months into our relationship, I found out he was seeing someone else. I was crushed and vowed that I would never let someone hurt me like that again.
Fast-forward a few years, and a few more heartbreaks – each one a little more intense than the last – and I realized there had been a trend: guys always wanted more than what I was willing to give. Men – or should I say boys? – always left me feeling worthless, used, abandoned, stupid and like I needed them to be beautiful. You don’t need them.
I want you to recognize the verse at the beginning is your life line to knowing your true value: God chose YOU. No fixing yourself up or making yourself worthy, like you do with those guys who always want more. God wants you for you, quirks and all. In fact, God is OBSESSED with you. Psalm 45:11 states, “The King is enthralled with your beauty.” Enthralled means fascinated. Yes, God is fascinated with you.
It took me a while, longer than I had hoped, but I’ve come to this realization. When you refuse to settle for some guy that wants you for every other reason than what you are purposed for, and step into God’s plan for you, what the world has been telling you won’t matter so much.
It will be hard, but God can do immeasurably more. God has destined you “for such a time as this.” Step into what He has for you, and I promise, it can save you from many heartbreaks and disappointments.
Your Big Sister Sara